If You Want to Change the World, First Go Home and Love Your Wife

Dr. Miz Mzwakhe Tancredi says that to create a real impact on the world, you first must drive change in your relationships.

When Apostle Dr. Miz Mzwakhe Tancredi first heard God’s call to serve, he was just 14 years old. At first, as he readily admits, he felt intimidated by the responsibility that such a summons implied.

“I questioned my worthiness,” he remembers. “But eventually, I realized that when God calls, He also equips.”

Confident that he could accomplish great things, Dr. Miz Mzwakhe Tancredi eagerly embraced his destiny, choosing to dedicate his life to spiritual service in his homeland of South Africa. His determination to heed God’s call planted seeds that eventually grew into his thriving New Life Global Church ministry, which has branched out from its Johannesburg roots to achieve a truly global reach.

While known mainly for his dynamic ministry, Apostle Tancredi is also a skilled and experienced relationship coach and marriage and family counselor. His unique approach to counseling features an eclectic but mesmerizing and highly effective mixture of Biblical wisdom, psychological insights, and practical advice for men and women trying to pull their tottering marriages back from the brink.

While his New Life ministry has emerged as a sanctuary of hope and redemption for those who have been lost in the spiritual wilderness, Dr. Miz’s work as a marriage and family counselor has thrown a spiritual lifeline to many desperate people struggling to keep their most cherished relationships afloat.


Why men, women, and marriages fail

In his book “Why Women Fail Men and Why Men Fail Women,” Dr. Miz discusses the difference between what marriage partners believe each other wants and what they want. Complicating things further, men and women don’t always have a clearly articulated view of what their own deepest needs are, so efforts to improve the marriage through direct communication about such topics may not always prove fruitful. Honesty is missing because self-awareness is limited.

This is exactly the problem that Dr. Miz addresses in his counseling sessions with couples or individuals who seek out his services. By asking probing questions and encouraging the frankest type of self-analysis, Dr. Miz helps the men and women who come to him reach new plateaus of self-comprehension and mutual understanding.

Without this more advanced level of awareness, the promise to ‘love, honor and cherish’ can be rendered hollow, turning people who once pledged to be partners for life into the proverbial ships that pass in the night. But once awareness has been raised, these ships can finally dock together side by side, and begin the process of rebuilding their marriages on a foundation of authentic knowledge and deep respect.

After counseling so many people for so many years, he has discovered that a decaying marriage must be remodeled from the ground up, brick by brick, with intricate care and precise attention to detail. Combining Biblically inspired wisdom with hard-earned expertise, Dr. Miz shows those who are laboring to preserve their marriages how to clear the fog that has obscured their vision for far too long, so they can finally see the amazing person standing beside them.


Home is where the heart Is

“If you want to change the world, go home and love your wife.”

This is Apostle Dr. Miz Mzwakhe Tancredi’s most well-known quote, and it has struck a chord with millions of men around the world. Dr. Miz’s view of a good marriage is that it is a divine gift from God, a union of two souls who are destined to remain intertwined for eternity.

His understanding of the value of marriage is grounded partially in the Bible. But it’s a lesson he’s also learned through lived experience. His cherished wife Charisma is his partner in his ministry and in all other areas of his life, and together they have built an unshakeable bond based on kindness, compassion, understanding, and respect, and on their commitment to always making each other and their marriage a major priority.

So, when Dr. Miz tells men they can change the world by going home and loving their wives, they can rest assured he is practicing what he preaches.


Discovering what love truly means

After consulting closely with Dr. Miz, many couples whose marriages were seemingly on the rocks found the courage to face the truth about how they each contributed to their current situation.

Guided by his sage advice and compassionate counsel, they’ve then been able to reconcile and renew the feelings of deep love that bound them together in the first place. They’ve learned to forgive themselves and their partners while recommitting to building a marriage bound together by a love that aligns with the Biblical definition of the word.

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.”

These are beautiful sentiments, and they reflect the kind of marriage Apostle Dr. Miz Mzwakhe Tancredi has co-created along with his wife Charisma. As a spiritually oriented marriage counselor, he has helped others find or rediscover this same type of transformative love, which can sustain any marriage through even the most challenging times.


A transformational retreat for men

As a part of his ongoing mission to heal wounded souls and restore damaged relationships, Apostle Dr. Miz Mzwakhe Tancredi has recently announced plans to host a one-of-a-kind spiritual retreat for men. Retreat participants will be able to tap into Dr. Miz’s deep well of knowledge about healthy relationships and about the gospel.

“It’s more than just a retreat,” he clarifies. “It’s a journey toward understanding, growth, and spiritual enlightenment. We’ll delve into the intricacies of relationships and introduce men to the profound wisdom the Bible offers to navigate these challenges.”

During this healing experience, men will learn how to take responsibility for the health of their intimate relationships. They will also discover why the Bible goes to such great lengths to emphasize the importance of marriage to a man’s emotional and spiritual development. Under Dr. Miz’s steady and empathetic hand, they will engage in an intense process of self-reflection, which will empower their efforts to renew their marriages and change their lives for the better.


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