To my surprise and delight, I recently found motivation in unexpected ways.
I’m someone who has always really enjoyed looking at other people’s gardens. I literally stop to smell the roses, lilacs, peonies and any other blooming vegetation — but I’ve always told myself that gardening was not for me.
The idea of digging around in the dirt isn’t intrinsically appealing to me, so I assumed gardening was something other people liked to do, but it just wasn’t where I wanted to invest my time.
When the warm weather hit last spring, I started to think about who I could hire to do some planting. I reached out to a few people but none worked out. This frustrated me at first, but then I thought, well, I’ll give it a try on my own.
I ended up loving the process. I had always thought of gardening as something incredibly technical, where you needed to know how to do everything right. And while it’s true that there is a technical aspect to it, I found that it was possible (and a lot of fun) to attempt to think differently about the process.
Here are some strategies that helped me enjoy gardening, and that could help you break through anywhere you may be lacking motivation — in business and in life.
1. Consider, you might be suffering from ‘expert complex’
Back to my gardening example, I had boxed myself into thinking that there were gardening people and non-gardening people, and that gardening people knew much more than I did.
By feeling like I needed to be an expert before I could do anything, I held myself back. Once I gave myself permission to be imperfect and do what I knew how to do the best I could, I was able to move forward. Sure, a few of my little plants haven’t quite made it, and my garden isn’t ready for Better Homes and Gardens, but I enjoy it and actually made some progress.
So, ask yourself: “Where am I not doing anything because I don’t know the exact right way?” Instead of waiting, start somewhere.
2. Reframe your perspective
When I thought about gardening as “digging in the dirt,” I was unenthused. When I looked at it as painting with flowers, I became excited.
I’ve taken art and design classes so when I had this perspective, my creative juices started flowing. I chose a color palette and had fun wandering through the flower aisles looking for blooms that fit my intended look.
What activity are you avoiding because the standard perspective just doesn’t seem to work for you? Think of an alternative perspective.
3. Discover a motivating ‘why’
Gardening for the sake of gardening was not compelling for me. On the other hand, gardening for the sake of creating beauty and joy for myself and others was thrilling! Now, I decorate the interior of my home for my own pleasure and the pleasure of my guests, and I love it.
Identify where you’re feeling unmotivated. How can you connect this activity with one of your values? For example, maybe one of your values is getting things done efficiently, so filing papers could help you speed up your workflow.
4. Make the process pleasurable
For me, taking time in the morning to go out and see what’s bloomed is really enjoyable. I use that moment as a trigger to do things like watering. It’s also gratifying to see that when I am responsive to the needs of the plants — like seeing they’re a bit droopy and watering them, how quickly sad-looking little leaves can spring back up.
So, ask yourself, “How could I make keeping up with an activity pleasurable?” For many, it can involve listening to music or a favorite podcast. Or maybe it involves getting yourself a cup or coffee or tea while doing the work, or relocating your work space.
You may not need motivation with gardening, but I’m sure that there is some area of your life where you’re struggling to move forward. If so, use these tips to get some much-needed motivation to get ahead.
This article has been edited.
Elizabeth Grace Saunders is the founder and CEO of Real Life E®, a time coaching and training company, and the author of “The 3 Secrets to Effective Time Investment: How to Achieve More Success With Less Stress” and “How to Invest Your Time Like Money.”
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