Measuring Your Emotional IQ
One of the best ways to measure emotional intelligence is self-perception. If a person’s self-perception is accurate, he likely has a high emotional IQ; however, if his self-perception is out of sync with reality, he likely has a low emotional IQ.
It can be extremely difficult to measure your own emotional IQ in this way because when perception and reality don’t align, you usually can’t tell. Try asking yourself these questions:
- Do I feel like I’m constantly on top of things, or “killing it”, but others seem to be disappointed with my performance?
- Do I have trouble understanding and being compassionate toward others?
- Do I appreciate the value of things I don’t understand?
It can be difficult to be honest with yourself, but if you notice a gap between how you see yourself and how others respond to you, you may need to work on your self-perception. Becoming more self-aware can help you make more thoughtful decisions that benefit you and those around you.
Boost Your Emotional IQ to Become a Better Leader
Whether you have low or high emotional IQ, consciously working toward a higher emotional IQ can make you a better leader and improve your personal and professional relationships. A higher emotional IQ can help you:
- Relate to your employees.
- Understand both sides of conflicts and resolve them more quickly.
- Build a better product that solves a widespread, thoughtfully considered problem.
- Inspire your customers.
- Sell your product effectively by using emotions as a sales tool.
Here are 4 ways you can boost your emotional IQ:
- Identify your emotional IQ by asking for honest feedback from the people who love and care about you. Commit to listening and reflecting before reacting; remember that they are trying to help you.
- Work through relationship challenges, whether with your significant other, close friends, or co-workers.
- Find and work with a mentor — someone you respect.
- Hire an executive coach or life coach.
As a starting point for leading with emotional intelligence, ask yourself what you believe in and why your organization exists. Don’t focus on the results of success, such as profit – although that’s an important signal of success in execution. Instead, focus on the why that motivates you. Then, use emotional intelligence to make the world believe what you believe, and success will follow.
Don’t sell a product. Sell a dream.
Falon Fatemi is the co-founder of Liason, where she builds strategic partnerships for the world’s most innovative startups with investors, brands, and entertainment leaders. A native of Silicon Valley, Fatemi started working at Google at the age of 19 and went on to consult startups and VCs. She is passionate about growing tech startups and their founders into mainstream influencers and enhancing emotional intelligence in business.
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