The Secret To Getting What You Want (Every Time)

There are some fundamental truths in life that can assist anyone with receiving what they desire. It’s simple really, so simple that many people overlook it.

Photo: Sarah Liddle, founder and Director of Coach School; Source: Courtesy Photo
Photo: Sarah Liddle, founder and Director of Coach School; Source: Courtesy Photo

“You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” — Zig Ziglar


There are some fundamental truths in life that can assist anyone with receiving what they desire. It’s simple really, so simple that many people overlook it.

I’ve broken it down into five simple steps you can follow. If you are not receiving what you want, review these five steps and ask yourself if you have completed each one. If not, revise your action plan to include it. Once complete, move on to the next.


1. Help others get what they want.

Have you helped another person get what they want? As an example, let us assume you want to earn seven figures in business. With this being the case, ask yourself if you have helped enough people to get what you want. Everything in life comes from people, and your individual success is largely dependent on your ability to help others.


2. Help yourself by looking within.

Do your thoughts, feelings and behavior line-up with the type of life you want to create and the person you want to be? Often we can do all the right actions, while helping everyone else out but never achieve anything as a result. The reason for this is often a lack of alignment with what we want to create because we are not who we need to be in order to create it.


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Photo: © veles_studio, YFS Magazine

Let’s assume, again, that you want to make seven figures this year in business. Are your thoughts and actions consistent with a seven-figure mindset? If you aren’t sure how someone with this type of mindset would behave, find out.


3. Make space for it.

Many people want something, but they don’t free up any time in their lives to get it. If you want to earn more money, then you need to free up time in your calendar to do what’s necessary to achieve a specific goal aligned with that desire.

As wellness expert Susan Biali, M.D., explains in Psychology Today: “When you successfully hit the pause button and step off the hamster wheel, you’ll be able to see your life from a fresh perspective and will finally be able to think about how you might start to make changes.”

This space creates opportunity to work on your idea, prospect new clients, meet with your team and develop strategies to help you grow. Remember: you cannot create anything new, if your life is full to the brim.


4. Be completely open to receiving it.

What is happening internally? A coach may be helpful at this point to help you uncover things, such as limiting beliefs, and internal mental blocks that stand in the way of receiving what you want.

“The psychology of success has been studied extensively. It’s not uncommon for people to become trapped by their own thinking. Thankfully, there are practical solutions to help achievers overcome mental blocks that can (and do) keep most people from realizing their full potential and reaching new levels of excellence… psychological obstacles could be holding you back in life in business.”


5. Remain flexible on a path of least resistance.

I have noticed that a lot of my clients are very set in their ways. Clarity is excellent, but clarity on your goals shouldn’t be confused with stubbornness and an unwillingness to change lanes. Your goals and dreams should be clear, but remain flexible with how you’ll achieve them. This approach will open you up to receive what you want a lot faster. You can get what you want, but you will likely need to make adjustments along the way.


This article has been edited and condensed.

Sarah Liddle is a life coach trainer. She lives off the grid in an eco friendly house-bus/ haybale house with her partner and son. She is a coach trainer at  Coach School and a mentor. Sarah is under 30 years old and has risen from humble beginnings in New Zealand to create an international six figure business. Connect with @thesarahliddle on Twitter.


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